18 Signs You Might Have Broken Up Too Soon

Written By Dave Spencer

Breaking up is painful, but it’s the correct decision most of the time. But what if you made a mistake? Ending a relationship has a strong sense of finality, and if things ended badly, there might be no going back. If you’re having doubts, here are 18 signs you might have broken up too soon.

You Didn’t Have a Discussion

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If you thought long and hard about breaking up with your ex, you probably had a discussion and decided you weren’t right for each other. But you might have been too hasty if you broke up without discussing what was wrong. Communication is vital in every relationship stage, including breaking up.

You Broke Up in Anger

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Many terrible things are said in anger, and we frequently regret them. Breaking up in the middle of a fight is rash and implies you might not yet know how to handle conflict as a couple. According to Bustle, fights are normal in a relationship and shouldn’t trigger a breakup unless something irredeemable happens.

You Hesitated For a Long Time

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When you have a moment of clarity that someone isn’t right for you, you feel more confident breaking up with them. If you hesitated over whether to break up for a long time, you had many reasons to stay in the relationship. If you’re still mulling it over, there’s hope of a reconciliation.

You Keep Thinking About Them

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The people we love are always on our minds, but that emotional connection usually ends with a breakup. If you have only happy memories and longing thoughts about your ex, you might have broken up with them too soon. If you want them out of your life, why are they all you think about?

You’re Still Texting

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A breakup should be a clean break, with no communication between exes to help them both move on. But if you can’t stop texting your ex, you’re not over them. Your desire for communication implies you don’t want to lose them. You’d keep an emotional distance if breaking up was the correct decision.

You Were Under a Lot of Stress

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Stress affects us far more deeply than we realize. We regularly make hasty decisions under pressure that we later regret. If you were stressed about work or handling a family crisis, you may have lost patience with your partner and ended things prematurely. Recognizing this means you broke up too soon.

Things are Fixable

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Something usually triggers a breakup, so looking at it retrospectively, you might find it’s something entirely minor. Verywell Mind encourages taking some time apart to allow for a fresh look at the situation and whether or not it’s fixable. If it is, breaking up was likely the wrong call.

You Don’t Want Them to Move On

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It’s normal to be a bit jealous when an ex moves on, but if you’re genuinely over them, you won’t care. If you’re stalking them and their potential new partners on social media, you clearly don’t want them to move on. Doubts about the breakup are probably causing your lingering feelings.

You’re Not Mad at Them

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It’s possible to break up amicably and remain on good terms, but it’s sadly more common for people to scream, cry, and loathe each other afterward. Most people don’t miss their exes because they’re mad at them, so a complete lack of bad feelings could indicate you broke up with yours too soon.

You’re Having Second Thoughts

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Second thoughts are significant because they show us what we truly think once the initial intensity of a situation has worn off. After the anger and tension of a breakup, you might have second thoughts about whether you made the right choice. The more doubts you have, the more likely you are to regret it.

You’ve Both Matured

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Sometimes, relationships end because the people involved aren’t mature enough to handle long-term commitments. However, many people blossom after they break up with their partner and experience individual growth. If you’ve both matured and can look differently at the relationship in hindsight, you could give it another go.

You Have Each Other’s Things

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After a breakup, people usually want to get rid of any physical reminders of their ex. According to Metro, some people hold onto an ex-partner’s things out of awkwardness, forgetfulness, or sentimentality. If you can relate to the third, you may not be willing to move on because you want your ex back.

You Defend Them to Your Friends

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It’s part of the friendship code to comfort your friend during a breakup, which may include talking down about their ex. If you’re the heartbroken friend in this situation and you’re constantly leaping to your ex’s defense, question why. You obviously still care about them and want to protect their reputation.

Things Were Always Good

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Many people struggle to fully forget about their exes because when they were together, things were always good. Sometimes, things turn sour, and people break up. Other times, one thing goes wrong, and you both throw in the towel. If things had always been good in your relationship, you may have been overhasty.

Everyone You Know is Upset

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When you’re in a long-term relationship, your partner integrates into your friend group and becomes part of your family, so many people will miss them being around. If everyone you know is upset you’ve broken up, it’s a sign you were in a healthy relationship that could be restored.

You’re Both Apologetic

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Too often, breakups become a battle between two people who used to love each other, with both insisting they’re in the right. That’s why it’s significant if you and your ex are apologizing to each other for what happened. You might be showing remorse to try to win each other back.

You Don’t Want to Start Dating Again

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Most people don’t immediately throw themselves back into dating after splitting from a serious partner. Glamour reports that waiting a month or two to mourn the relationship before dating is healthy, so if a lot more time has passed for you, you might not want to date anyone else because you want your ex.

Thinking About Them Makes You Smile

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Even if there are good memories, most people don’t often think about their ex-partners and smile. This implies that you still have strong feelings for them and want to reconnect. Even if you broke up too soon, there’s still hope for a reconciliation if you pursue your happiness.

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